Marriage: more than meets the eye

In the name of Allah.

All praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds, peace and blessings be upon the last prophet Muhammad sallahu alaihi wassalam, his family and his companions. 


Alhamdulillah.Yesterday I attended a marriage course organized by Hikmah Way Institute. For me, I see it as an opportunity for knowledge and not just barely a course covering the issues one sees in marriage. This is because, it covers a lot. A whole lot, and not just the fiqh.

And today, I see it clearer. Married life that is.

I always see being married as something that is fun, although people kept saying that it is not just fun. It is, in fact, a responsibility, something that is unpredictable.

Cause when you get married, you're with someone else, you're no longer you. There's this other person that's part of you, and that particular part of you, that part, you cannot control. Because that's a totally different person than who you are.

Like myself. I know me. I know what makes me happy, what makes me sappy and what keeps me going in life. I know that I do not like pumpkins and I love fruits. I know me.

But that other person, your husband, is a whole different person. You neither know him nor have you had friendships with him for long (cause when you're marrying that person, you wouldn't know who he is, until you guys got engage--cause that's what I think my arrangements are) So anyways, you wouldn't even know whether he's kind or harsh, loves cat or even eats fruits. That's the hard part.

Now, like seriously now, I don't know whether it is a risk I should take. It is a scary world.

But the brother, the one who gave the talk made me realise one thing: the importance of having that same goal in life, that is to get a life that is blessed by Allah, that would help both parties to increase in doing good deeds.


So, that woke me up from the blinding lie of the shaitaan that, when you place Allah at His rightful place, He'll help you through every hardship.  


May Allah reward us with the ability to see beyond what meets the eye, insyAllah.