"A man cannot have the love of music and the love of the Qur’an in the same heart. Only one can be present. One must enter, and the other must leave" - Ibn TaymiyyahI've been meaning to share this. I've trashed more than 10 Gb of music on my computer a few weeks back, and inshAllah too, some burden in my heart. May Allah provide us with ease and His rewards inshAllah.
Saturday, October 8, 2011
by Ibn Taymiyyah
In the name of Allah the most gracious, the most merciful.
Monday, October 3, 2011
Marriage: more than meets the eye
In the name of Allah.
All praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds, peace and blessings be upon the last prophet Muhammad sallahu alaihi wassalam, his family and his companions.
Alhamdulillah.Yesterday I attended a marriage course organized by Hikmah Way Institute. For me, I see it as an opportunity for knowledge and not just barely a course covering the issues one sees in marriage. This is because, it covers a lot. A whole lot, and not just the fiqh.
And today, I see it clearer. Married life that is.
I always see being married as something that is fun, although people kept saying that it is not just fun. It is, in fact, a responsibility, something that is unpredictable.
Cause when you get married, you're with someone else, you're no longer you. There's this other person that's part of you, and that particular part of you, that part, you cannot control. Because that's a totally different person than who you are.
Like myself. I know me. I know what makes me happy, what makes me sappy and what keeps me going in life. I know that I do not like pumpkins and I love fruits. I know me.
But that other person, your husband, is a whole different person. You neither know him nor have you had friendships with him for long (cause when you're marrying that person, you wouldn't know who he is, until you guys got engage--cause that's what I think my arrangements are) So anyways, you wouldn't even know whether he's kind or harsh, loves cat or even eats fruits. That's the hard part.
Now, like seriously now, I don't know whether it is a risk I should take. It is a scary world.
But the brother, the one who gave the talk made me realise one thing: the importance of having that same goal in life, that is to get a life that is blessed by Allah, that would help both parties to increase in doing good deeds.
So, that woke me up from the blinding lie of the shaitaan that, when you place Allah at His rightful place, He'll help you through every hardship.
May Allah reward us with the ability to see beyond what meets the eye, insyAllah.
All praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds, peace and blessings be upon the last prophet Muhammad sallahu alaihi wassalam, his family and his companions.
Alhamdulillah.Yesterday I attended a marriage course organized by Hikmah Way Institute. For me, I see it as an opportunity for knowledge and not just barely a course covering the issues one sees in marriage. This is because, it covers a lot. A whole lot, and not just the fiqh.
And today, I see it clearer. Married life that is.
I always see being married as something that is fun, although people kept saying that it is not just fun. It is, in fact, a responsibility, something that is unpredictable.
Cause when you get married, you're with someone else, you're no longer you. There's this other person that's part of you, and that particular part of you, that part, you cannot control. Because that's a totally different person than who you are.
Like myself. I know me. I know what makes me happy, what makes me sappy and what keeps me going in life. I know that I do not like pumpkins and I love fruits. I know me.
But that other person, your husband, is a whole different person. You neither know him nor have you had friendships with him for long (cause when you're marrying that person, you wouldn't know who he is, until you guys got engage--cause that's what I think my arrangements are) So anyways, you wouldn't even know whether he's kind or harsh, loves cat or even eats fruits. That's the hard part.
Now, like seriously now, I don't know whether it is a risk I should take. It is a scary world.
But the brother, the one who gave the talk made me realise one thing: the importance of having that same goal in life, that is to get a life that is blessed by Allah, that would help both parties to increase in doing good deeds.
So, that woke me up from the blinding lie of the shaitaan that, when you place Allah at His rightful place, He'll help you through every hardship.
May Allah reward us with the ability to see beyond what meets the eye, insyAllah.
Saturday, October 1, 2011
View on parenting
In the name of Allah the most gracious, the merciful.
All praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds, peace and blessings be upon the last prophet Muhammad sallahu alaihi wassalam. Alhamdulillah, I praise Allah for the goodness that He has presented me with these few days. I finished my endless lists of presentations for the semester. Alhamdulillah.
Reflecting on what I've seen and gone through these 22 years of living, I see the importance of having a good foundation, regardless of the aspect that one choose to talk about. But the easiest, most agreeable foundation one can refer to is, home.
Outside influences don't matter if home foundation is good.
A good home is essential to proper upbringing. At the same time, we cannot be complacent about outside influences. Children, like budding plants, have to be protected from the harmful environment, whether it is friends, media, books or whatever. It is not healthy to let children be pulled in all difference directions in the fallacious hopes that they will ultimately sort things out for themselves.
Although I've gone through such rough journey 'finding myself', I do not think that everyone has the perseverance or the determination to choose the 'road not taken'. Not saying that everyone is such a chicken, but children, they look for people that they can look up to, and if they happen to meet the wrong people, it might just be the end for them.
Therefore, my opinion is for parents to have limitations to where children can reach/go to. Yes, it's true that the more we say no, the more they want to do it. The curiosity in children is not something we can just halt. This, here, is when parenting takes place. modelling the right behaviour, giving them the knowledge of what's right and what's not and reasoning to why such thing is a bad action are important.
All praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds, peace and blessings be upon the last prophet Muhammad sallahu alaihi wassalam. Alhamdulillah, I praise Allah for the goodness that He has presented me with these few days. I finished my endless lists of presentations for the semester. Alhamdulillah.
Reflecting on what I've seen and gone through these 22 years of living, I see the importance of having a good foundation, regardless of the aspect that one choose to talk about. But the easiest, most agreeable foundation one can refer to is, home.
Outside influences don't matter if home foundation is good.
A good home is essential to proper upbringing. At the same time, we cannot be complacent about outside influences. Children, like budding plants, have to be protected from the harmful environment, whether it is friends, media, books or whatever. It is not healthy to let children be pulled in all difference directions in the fallacious hopes that they will ultimately sort things out for themselves.
Although I've gone through such rough journey 'finding myself', I do not think that everyone has the perseverance or the determination to choose the 'road not taken'. Not saying that everyone is such a chicken, but children, they look for people that they can look up to, and if they happen to meet the wrong people, it might just be the end for them.
Therefore, my opinion is for parents to have limitations to where children can reach/go to. Yes, it's true that the more we say no, the more they want to do it. The curiosity in children is not something we can just halt. This, here, is when parenting takes place. modelling the right behaviour, giving them the knowledge of what's right and what's not and reasoning to why such thing is a bad action are important.
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